relentlessness
The difficult part of being a carer is the relentlessness of it. If I'm having a bad day or feel unwell, nobody else makes the dinner or does the cleaning, and I can't have a 'night off' or even an early night (unless my husband wants one too) as you can guarantee it will be a toiletting or otherwise medically complicated night just when I could really do with a rest! Other couples share everyday chores and responsibilities; for me it's just me, all the time.
